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luvdids 
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| stui magpie wrote: | I doubt a lot of your views will ever seem normal and reasonable. 
I'm not suggesting the ex is untouchable, but there has to be a time period involved. Let the upset ones wounds heal so they're ready and able to move on first, not rub salt (or your dick) into it. |
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stui magpie 
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| luvdids wrote: | Not totally hearsay, a friend of mine knows Billy (first hand) and called him this morning. So, although it wasn't me, it was as close as you get - not like it was a friend of a guy at work who lived next door etc.
Billy didn't initiate the break up. Garry banged Billy's estranged wife (not even divorced wife). |
And now Lyon is claiming mental health issues for dropping out of the footy show. 
I hope he's not just bullshitting (I wouldn't wish a mental health issue on anyone btw), if suffering from guilt was a serious mental health issue the institutions would have been full of Catholics.
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Wokko 
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Mental Health issues can lead some people to make bad life choices but I really hope it's not being used as a cover story or to stop the 'scandal' side of things.
And yeah, if someone is genuinely your friend they'll at least ask you if it's alright to persue an ex; it's not about owning someone once a relationship is over it's about respecting your friend enough to make sure your actions aren't going to cause pain and suffering. There are 7.4 Billion people in the world, I don't think a mate's ex is the one and only Miss Right.
If it's 'True Love' with marriage and kids on the horizon then I understand, but in that case your mate will too. Ask. |
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stui magpie
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Particularly when it's been a longstanding relationship of several years, not some primary school 5 weeker.
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David 
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| Wokko wrote: | And yeah, if someone is genuinely your friend they'll at least ask you if it's alright to persue an ex; it's not about owning someone once a relationship is over it's about respecting your friend enough to make sure your actions aren't going to cause pain and suffering. There are 7.4 Billion people in the world, I don't think a mate's ex is the one and only Miss Right.
If it's 'True Love' with marriage and kids on the horizon then I understand, but in that case your mate will too. Ask. |
I don't totally disagree with you; I'd just phrase it more as "give them the heads up and prepare them" rather than "ask them for permission". I don't think permission is theirs to give, but I do think it's best for everybody concerned if they find out through you and not a third party (or worse, find out when they run into you and the ex in the street one day arm in arm).
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HAL
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David
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Good one, Hal. Anyone want to have a crack at that one?
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HAL
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think positive
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Cleaning out my wardrobe and bed side table, found 16 pens in my top drawer. I only remember putting 1 in there! I also found $5.65 so far.
If only I could find my other pair of glasses
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King Monkey
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| David wrote: | | stui magpie wrote: | | Mates don't do that to mates. |
I would prefer the view that mates don't behave like jealous cavemen if their friend and former flame happen to hit it off. You either deal with it like a mature adult, or, if you can't handle the sight of them together, you may have to go your own way – and that's your problem, really, not theirs.
All very well to say "there's plenty of other fish in the sea", but love doesn't follow social conventions. I think it's hard enough to find love in this world without being bound by stupid rules like "mates' exes are off limits". |
Does anything change if one substitutes "mates' exes" with "mates' family members"?? Like, I dunno, "mates' daughter" ??????
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stui magpie
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You mean, "soon to be ex-mates" daughter.
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| King Monkey wrote: | | David wrote: | | stui magpie wrote: | | Mates don't do that to mates. |
I would prefer the view that mates don't behave like jealous cavemen if their friend and former flame happen to hit it off. You either deal with it like a mature adult, or, if you can't handle the sight of them together, you may have to go your own way – and that's your problem, really, not theirs.
All very well to say "there's plenty of other fish in the sea", but love doesn't follow social conventions. I think it's hard enough to find love in this world without being bound by stupid rules like "mates' exes are off limits". |
Does anything change if one substitutes "mates' exes" with "mates' family members"?? Like, I dunno, "mates' daughter" ?????? |
Yeah heard that too, like sleeping with your creepy hairy uncle, no wonder billy is pissed, and has been seen out with his missus without friction (don't. Go there!)
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stui magpie
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| think positive wrote: | | King Monkey wrote: | | David wrote: | | stui magpie wrote: | | Mates don't do that to mates. |
I would prefer the view that mates don't behave like jealous cavemen if their friend and former flame happen to hit it off. You either deal with it like a mature adult, or, if you can't handle the sight of them together, you may have to go your own way – and that's your problem, really, not theirs.
All very well to say "there's plenty of other fish in the sea", but love doesn't follow social conventions. I think it's hard enough to find love in this world without being bound by stupid rules like "mates' exes are off limits". |
Does anything change if one substitutes "mates' exes" with "mates' family members"?? Like, I dunno, "mates' daughter" ?????? |
Yeah heard that too, like sleeping with your creepy hairy uncle, no wonder billy is pissed, and has been seen out with his missus without friction (don't. Go there!) |
Considering Billy is hung like a bull Gorilla (google that) I'm not surprised. 
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The reaction to Alice Kunek dressing up as Kanye. If this poor girl kills herself, her team mate has blood on her hands. Disgraceful overreaction.
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