My Dilemma

[David]

I have to disagree. Texting is a crappy way to ask someone out - if you can't ask him to his face, how are you going to maintain a relationship with him? Sure, more chance of rejection and hurt and all that, but you've got to take the chance if it's worth it.

As for getting friends to ask him out... I don't want to be mean, but I think luvdids and leonmagic may be right. It's probably not the best way to go about it... although, a lot of it depends on how subtle his friend is. If he manages to just ask him casually without making it look like he's been talking to you, it could work.

Anyhow, whatever the case, best of luck and hopefully it works out... people can give all the advice they want, but in the end this stuff is kind of unpredictable. Hope things go ok

[Magpie Girl]

I'm 16.

I'd love to be able to build up the courage to ask him out but I know I'd freak out. I always go an embarrassing shade of read If it turns out he doesn't like me that much, I suppose it'll save me some embarrassment.

I have his msn addy..... but he's never online. The last time he was online we didn't really get to talk much because there was a group of us talking together. & he doesn't have a mobile so that's a bit annoying.

[Miss_Lisey_Molloy]

Oh, to be 16 again! I remember being exactly in your situation!! Except mine was much older than me, and worked opposite me, so it wasn't at school..

He drove me home from work one day, and asked me out.. I had been putting it off forever, because I was too nervous, and then out of nowhere, he goes and does it.. Haha..

This story doesn't help you, however.

I understand both sides of this debate.. It is better to ask him out yourself, then to get someone else to do it, because it does make you seem a tad childish, but I understand the fear of being knocked back, definately overrides the fear of coming across as childish..

In the end, you will just have to make your own decision.. Because we don't know the guy, we can't really say the best way to approach him about your feelings for him . Good luck, anyway!!

Love always, Alyssa xoxo

[yadster#13]

im not saying she has to ask him out in a text, who asks ppl out these days? I have been with my boyfriend a yr and a half, know one acutally 'asked each other out' it just kind of happens
I mean that use a text to ask if he wants to catch up, hang out some where out of school, so its more casual

[David]

[thatkategirl]

Lol
i reckon if you just do some harmless flirting. Not just subtle, a bit of both should work nicely.
Im only 15 and have never had a real boyfriend, just random hookups, but yeah, i recon flirting might be the way to go.

ask around, see who he likes lol

[David]

Any updates? How has it been going?

[Magpie Girl]

Yes, well. There has been some progress, which is good
Rembember how beofre I said that the friend of mine was going with N on an engineering camp.... & he was going to ask/tell him that stuff....?
Well he told him I liked him, then asked him if he liked me. N said he wasn't sure, but from what my friend could tell, he does like me.... & he thinks I'm attractive.....( ).

However, I text my friend while they were away & told him not to ask N out for me.
It's complicated & confusing & not something I really want to go into here. To put it simply, there could be another guy. So, until I work out what I'm going to do, I'm not going to ask N out. I'm just taking it slowly at this stage....

So yeah, I'll wait until I get back to school (next week) & see what is going to happen between me & N.

[JacJacJacqui]

Sweetheart, take it from me. NEVER ask a guy out. Don't let him ever think he has the upper hand because a lot of men will use that to their advantage and not necessarily to yours. Be coy and playful and show interest by all means. Be OPEN to conversation which could possibly lead to something more, hopefully him asking you out. It's always better to be wooed rather than do the wooing, you want to know that he really likes you enough to ask you himself. I'm just very skeptical about peoples ulterior motives having been the chaser for a long time. I love the thrill of the chase but I have to be honest with you, men tend not to respect a woman who does the chasing. They like the thrill of the chase too.

[David]

My girlfriend asked me out, and we've been going out for a year in 2 weeks. I understand your point, but the fact is there are no hard and fast rules like that in dating... there's so much grey area.

Having said that, nature does usually make the male do the chasing, because it realises that the female may be desired for slightly more superficial reasons. I guess that supports your post.

[Magpie Girl]

Personally I'd rather not have to ask him out, basically because I think that it's a guys job to do that... & I really don't have a lot of confidence to do something like that. But if I had to I probably could.....
Who knows, I'll just have to wait until I go back to school on Tuesday... His class is across from mine for the first lesson, then he's in my class 2nd lesson, & then in my last lesson...... It shall be interesting....

[JacJacJacqui]

[Magpie Girl]

Well..... a bit of an update....
For starters I still don't know if he likes me.... I've heard different things from different people. I wrote him a little letter the other day (yes, childish I know) telling him that I like him & asking him if he likes me back?
I still haven't heard back from him.... but I'm not sure if that's because he doesn't really like me or he doesn't know how to talk to me.....

My problem now is that I have competition..... I hate it because I feel like I can't take time. I know the other 2 girls who have thier eye on him & they have no problem talking to him... unlike me.
I know I have to start talking to him more, but I just don't know what to say..... should I ask him right out if he likes me? or not?

I don't want to miss this chance, and I hate the fact that I find it so hard to talk to him.

[optimax]

[John Wren]