Revenge porn and slut-shaming

[stui magpie]

I actually don't think that (sexual promiscuity) has changed much in the last 30 years.

Young people will be promiscuous, most people once in a relationship, aren't. That's how it is now and how it was when I was 18.

What we didn't have 30 years ago was smart phones and internet, if you wanted to take DIY porn pics you needed a polaroid camera and sharing them involved showing people the photo

[Tannin]

And what else we didn't have 30 years ago was Aids.

[think positive]

[stui magpie]

[Tannin]

Never caught any, Stui, and it wasn't for lack of opportunity. Those were different times. I don't think I could be bothered with promiscuity these days if I was 20 again, it wouldn't be a patch on the glorious late 70s and early 80s.





PS: My best-ever pick-up line
Me: "Do you have any communicable diseases?"
Her: "No."
Me: "Would you like some?"

[stui magpie]

Hah, did it ever work?


I'm clean too, no issues. I sort of missed the late 70's and early 80's and just when I looked like hitting my straps I ended up first in a relationship then as a single parent.

But never mind, I'm single now. Even though sometimes it's like trying to shoot pool with a length of rope, got no major arguments.

[think positive]

you never shouldabeen honest with that young thing last year, should ya!!

[stui magpie]

[David]

[Wokko]

There is no progress, there is cyclic morality. Don't think your views are new and revolutionary, the 20s and 70s were both as, if not more permissive than now. The reason for all that 'outdated' morality is that people who have less partners before marriage are more likely statistically to have a permanent coupling, now whether that's simple correlation and not causality, well who knows, I'm not a statistician. Most of our morality has served to build an amazingly strong and robust society and culture. While I support acceptance and non violence towards people's life choices, I don't understand the need to have people's sexuality be on public display, and this includes nude pictures taken in private and spread around the internet. Now an exhibitionist will love this, and that's great but if such a consequence will cause grief then ensure it never happens.

One of my friends and his wife were celibate until marriage, I find the intolerance towards THEIR lifestyle from so called 'progressives' to be just as if not more hypocritical than intolerance from the moral right. At least you know a conservative christian is against overt homosexuality, a progressive feigns tolerance, but only tolerance for the things that they deem just and right.

[Tannin]

[Wokko]

[David]

I can't speak for other progressives, but I suspect a lot of them would agree with my view that all personal choices are valid. Like your friend, one of my sisters will also be celibate until marriage; indeed, I have at least one acquaintance who is asexual. Likewise, I know people in long-term relationships who have multiple partners. I hope you won't find it radical when I say that people should do whatever they feel comfortable with, and if exhibitionism is part of that then (providing it's explored in an ethical and non-threatening way) why should that be a problem for anyone?

As I said in an earlier post, the central hypocrisy here is that most of us watch porn, or at the very least are not averse to watching films with nudity. I presume you are no exception to that rule; so, why the puritanism when it comes to ordinary people living their lives in the way they want? I understand that your commitment to libertarianism means that you don't think the state should get involved in these decisions (and I agree), but I don't know why you don't apply that logic to the commercial sector, too. For me, authoritarian oppression is just as sinister whether it comes from the government or Coles Myer group.

As for views on sexuality being cyclical, I disagree. It's true that progress doesn't travel in a straight line (in many ways, we are more conservative now than we were 40 years ago), but you've got to remember that there are still people in charge of things now who grew up prior to the sexual revolution. When lifespans are 80+ years, who can say what effect that will have on cultural change? Anyhow, as permissive as the '20s were in the context of the day, things are still much, much more permissive now. It's not a cycle so much as two steps forward, one step back, I'd say.